On self-esteem, romantic relationships, finding true love and people pleasing…

Working with private clients from all over the world has made me aware that only a few are truly committed to do the inner work and persevere when things get tough. Many give up shortly before a big breakthrough.

Many of my clients went through painful breakups or found themselves in one dysfunctional relationship after another when they contacted me for the first time and were, therefore, more than ready for a change. They expressed that they had a deep longing for being in a fulfilling and loving relationship. And they also asked me questions about how they can meet their soulmate and twin flame which inspired me to write this article.

I believe that our own negative patterns are generally standing in the way of reuniting with our twin flame.

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Through the misuse of our free will and by buying into false beliefs about ourselves and others we got out of harmony with each other. We feel separated from Source, we feel separated from nature and everyone around us.

I believe the reason why many feel such a strong pull from their Higher Self at the moment to get physically in touch with their Twin Flame is because we live in a time where we can return to WHOLENESS and TRUTH as there are many souls on the planet who have already balanced out a big chunk of their karma or in other words the negative momentum they have set in place previously. More and more people are gradually awakening to who they truly are and do recognize that they are more than their body and more than their mind and that we are all ONE. 

However, this longing for WHOLENESS and TRUTH is often misunderstood and misinterpreted by our mind and that’s why the ego loves to buy into the illusion of romantic and sexual relationships.

The secret of finding your Twin Flame is to understand that your Higher Self, the wise all-knowing part of you is prompting you to re-establish your connection with Source first. We can only recognize someone’s light if we honour, love and respect ourselves first unconditionally. Your partner is never the source of your happiness but your connection with God/Source/Infinite Creator is. If you are already in a loving and committed relationship you can appreciate the gifts you receive from your partner but do not depend on them. Instead, prioritize your alignment with Source and your Higher Self. Everything that hurts and triggers you gives you the opportunity to grow in love and to be grateful for the teachers who continue to show up in your life and point out which areas still require attention and healing. 

I have written an e-book about Self-esteem recently and recorded a guided meditation which will help you with the process to connect with your inner light first. Both are available here.

I am a firm believer in doing the groundwork.

With groundwork, I mean working through one’s doubts, shame, fear, insecurity, anxiety, low-confidence, or any other separation patterns.

I help amazing and conscious women and men to live from a place of authenticity, connect with their higher purpose and shift their relationship dynamics around. Lately, I have been also working a lot with couples and helped them to feel more whole and complete on an individual level which had a positive knock-on effect on their intimate relationship.

If you are currently experiencing dissatisfaction, sadness or lack of passion and joy in your love and career life I am happy to explore with you together which inner dynamics prevent you to live a more fulfilling life. You can find out more about my work here. 

Inviting new LOVE and the ability to forgive

Many of us did not have the privilege to grow up in a loving, creative, positive and supportive home. If you can relate to it rest assured that you are not alone.

We all have various needs as children that need to be met and we are dependent in the early years on our parents and caregivers.

Those who had a very positive early childhood experience become often highly empowered individuals and develop healthy self-esteem and self-confidence.

However when those needs have not been met or the child has been neglected or even abused it will most likely develop dysfunctional coping strategies, addictions or defensive behaviour. Sooner or later many realize that they can’t blame their parents all their lives and this is usually the first step to healing.

When I work with private clients at some point, the topic of romantic relationships comes up no matter the reason they reached out to me in the first place. I never called myself a relationship counsellor or coach. All I do is helping my clients to raise their vibration and awareness, encourage them to look within and drop into their heart.

Interestingly around 70% of the private clients who were single with whom I worked for more than 12 months met the love of their life, got married or are in a happy and fulfilling relationship. It almost seemed to be the most natural thing to happen, and the synchronicities how they met were astonishing.

Any arising fears around intimacy or committed relationships occur in our mind. That’s why the foundation of addressing those fears including the emotions of shame, guilt and unworthiness is crucial. Once this energy is cleared out, you will feel much freer and lighthearted. And once you fall in love with yourself completely, you will source love from within. Nothing and no one has then to be your source of joy! You will be sourced, loved and nourished from within. And if you then choose to be in a romantic relationship the quality of this relationship will be very different. It is very likely that the partner you will meet then will support you to return to your own essence so that you can align with your highest purpose.

The terms soulmate and twin flame are very popular nowadays. Soulmate or twin flame partnerships are meant to help you to grow spiritually and it has usually very little to do with the “happily ever after” fairy tale many have bought into.

The quest for LOVE is always a quest for WHOLENESS

Until someone achieves a certain level of mastery and oneness with their real SELVES this individual is often unable to cope with their own arising negative patterns which are amplified in the presence of a Twin Flame. Your twin flame will be a very precise mirror. Even though we love to buy into the illusion that our Twin Flame will bring only out the best in us. 

Loving relationships do not happen by accident but are created by highly conscious individuals with a common purpose who decide to share their path and be of service to each other. They agree mutually to be forgiving and understanding even at times when they encounter disappointment or when they have different views. They learn and develop the skill to love each other unconditionally even if they find themselves in a conflicting situation and face challenges. They are aware that true love has nothing to do with short-lived infatuation which is fuelled by overexcitement, superiority or obsession.

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.”

– Rumi

What is the difference between infatuation and true love?

Infatuation makes you feel superior and blind. Real love allows you to be yourself.

Infatuation idealizes the potential partner. Real love sees the potential partner for who he or she truly is.

Infatuation is self-serving and often destructive. Real love unites and has much potential for healing.

Infatuation is a temporary illusion which cannot be maintained for long periods of time and will eventually lead to disappointment, anger and resentment. True love means that you recognize the divinity in the other person but you are aware that each of us has also their weaknesses and that all relationships come with their own lessons and growth opportunities.

The difference between soul mates, twin flames and karmic relationships

I am aware that modern new-age expressions Soul Mate and Twin Flame are often used interchangeably but as far as I know, Soul Mates are simply helping each other to master similar lessons or they have common dharma.

” Dharma is a Hindu, Buddhist and yogic concept that refers to the idea of a law, or principle, governing the universe. For an individual to live out their dharma is for them to act in accordance with this law. The word, dharma, comes from the Sanskrit root word dham, which means “to uphold” or “to support.” In the early Vedas and ancient Hinduism, dharma referred to the cosmic law, which created the ordered universe from chaos. Later, it was applied to other contexts, including human behaviours and ways of living that prevent society, family and nature from descending into chaos.” (1)

Twin Flames are Twin Souls who are literally the other half of our soul. It is believed that they were split into two and went on their separate ways to evolve individually through different incarnations.

I believe a reunion with a Twin Flame is only possible on a very high-frequency level where we have dissolved the majority of our negative patterns which bind us to this earth plane and where we see through all illusions of our ego and recognize divine perfection in all of creation. Your Twin Flame can show up in your life also as a platonic friend, brother, sister, father or mother, depending on what will accelerate your soul’s evolution the most.

Besides Soul Mates and Twin Flame relationships, there are also karmic relationships, where we have made agreements on a soul level to help each other to balance out each other’s karma.

What happens in a karmic relationship?

Intoxicated with the senses the two individuals feel initially a strong attraction without understanding what is going on. A powerful cocktail of hormones is released and suddenly the world looks different and you start to believe mistakenly that you have met the ONE.

Being mindful of what is happening can save you a lot of heartaches and headaches.

The experience which feels so real and overwhelming can be indeed life-changing and you might even believe that this relationship will last forever. Your body chemistry changes and might feel for the first time in your life that you finally understand what love is all. The wake-up call which usually follows very soon might then turn your life upside down in the same way the short-lived relationship did.

A karmic relationship turns often quickly and surprisingly into a very painful, dramatic, disappointing or even traumatic experience because it is not supposed to work out. Karmic relationships are usually meant to be very intense, challenging and short-lived so that you can learn your lessons quickly and move on. In extreme cases, they can manifest in physical, sexual and emotional abuse, resentment, hatred and violence.

Karmic relationships can be healed through love and forgiveness. Any negatively and anger that we send out will return to us in some form and we will need to balance out this energy again at some point. The following pre-recorded healing session will help you to release any unhelpful cords and attachments, facilitate deep healing on a soul level

Each soul has to go through the purification process and transform the base metal (negative patterns of the ego) into gold (their True Self). In other words, you have to marry the beloved within first before you go on the Twin Flame hunt. This process is called the alchemical marriage of the feminine aspect within and the masculine aspect within.

When a couple does not recognize the higher sacred purpose of a relationship the two individuals might experience physical and emotional fulfilment for a short time but it is very likely that they will also take on the negative patterns of their partner if they are not highly aware and conscious and don’t know how to transmute the negative karmic patterns into love. This may explain why people who have many superficial, casual, intimate relationships have the tendency to lose themselves and don’t know anymore who they are because they have absorbed unknowingly the imbalances and disturbances of everyone they have been involved with.

There is much misunderstanding about meeting one’s Soulmate or Twin Flame and people assume that the other person will complete them because it is the other half. The truth is that you must be ready and willing to feel whole and complete within yourself first and from this place of wholeness you can choose consciously to walk your path together with a partner. You come together with the other person to be of service to each other and to manifest your soul’s purpose in a powerful way.

Even if you are in a relationship with a Twin Flame it does not mean that things will always be easy. Just like in all other areas of your life there will be challenging and intense times because your partner will be merely a reflection of you. And any insecurities or fears that you have not dealt with will rise to the surface.

Romantic relationships are beautiful and can illuminate our blind-spots and also help us to grow and expand. They teach us how to love unconditionally, but they will never make us whole and complete.

The definition of self-love

In an ultimate sense, self-love is the recognition that there is only the SELF! Any experience of LOVE is always a direct experience of yourself. You are permitting yourself to experience LOVE, or you deny it.

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”― Rumi

This awareness is very empowering because you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that a relationship, a job, success or status can never fill the gap that you feel between yourself and your true (Divine) SELF.

The definition of Self-esteem

Self-esteem, sometimes called self-worth or self-respect, is how you feel about yourself.

Self-esteem and self-love allow people to face life with more confidence, compassion, benevolence and optimism.

What does it mean to have healthy self-esteem?

Individuals with healthy self-esteem trust their own discernment, act accordingly to their intuition and do not get affected if others don’t agree with their decisions or views.

They trust their ability to find creative solutions to any arising challenges but are simultaneously not afraid to ask for help.

They are sensitive to the feelings of others and do not wish to exploit or take advantage of others.

They can say No and are not afraid to make themselves a priority at times.

They feel comfortable in social situations and do not need to please others.

The definition of relationship dynamics

How two or more people are experiencing and relating to each other.

How you feel about yourself and the other person and how the other person feels about you and themselves.

Which buttons you push within each other when you interact together or in other words which qualities you activate and draw out from the other individual.

All of your relationships are mirroring back to you the relationship you have with yourself. They mirror back to you your own unintegrated or integrated aspects of your masculine and feminine. When your inner masculine and feminine are integrated you become automatically incredibly resourceful, resilient, magnetic, radiant, creative, unwavering, bold and courageous.

How is your current relationship with your partner? Your father? And with the universe?

Did you know that it is all interconnected?

Regardless of your gender, you have both qualities within you – the masculine and feminine.

Whether you are a man or a woman a completely new world will open up to you once you start to embody the empowered masculine qualities and make all your decisions from a place of empowerment and trust deeply that you are always held.

Frankincense is a masculine oil which can help you to look honestly at your life and re-evaluate and re-assess where your energy is currently off.

Many women who have never experienced WHOLESOME masculine energy have the tendency to abandon themselves if a relationship starts to fall apart. They ignore any warning signs that the relationship might be toxic and highly dysfunctional in the first place and was built on very shaky ground.

A relationship can blossom if it begins from a place of empowerment and trust. 
You can trust yourself if you embrace all aspects of yourself. Especially the “ugly” ones which you have denied, rejected and abandoned.

Don’t go for the shortcuts and quick solutions. Don’t be afraid to do some soul searching and to dive deep. Don’t be afraid of humiliation and setbacks. And don’t be afraid to rise again.

Don’t be afraid to listen to the silent whispers of your Soul! It has many secrets to teach which you won’t learn anywhere else.

The potent, high-frequency Frankincense essential oil can support you to build trust in the masculine (UNIVERSE) so that you can experience a sense of safety, stability and inner peace – and most of all trust YOURSELF no matter what! 

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Breaking the people-pleasing pattern. 

An indication of low self-esteem is people-pleasing, hiding or rejecting parts of oneself out of fear that someone might judge or reject you.

As a recovering people pleaser and empath who is highly attuned to the needs of others I learned and continue to learn many lessons around this topic. I have noticed that each time I betray myself and ignore my own needs it is because I have bought into the belief that the needs of others are more important.  As a result, I then usually start to feel an extremely strong pain in my spine, left shoulder and the neck. My body could not communicate more clearly that saying YES to something or someone out of obligation in a situation where I should actually take care of my own needs first is not necessarily the right way forward.

In fact, it can bring me out of alignment with my own higher self and create a breeding ground for toxic or dysfunctional relationships.

It is one of our basic needs to be accepted and loved. When we say NO to someone or something or when we do not accommodate other people’s needs a deep fundamental collective core wound becomes activated within us and also all the individuals involved. The primal survival instinct kicks in because finding oneself in a conflicting situation or dealing with someone’s anger, or upset might mean that we will be excluded from the tribe, family or community. We fear that we will be excluded from the group and need to stand alone. Tribal consciousness is the reason why many give in to their fears and play small. Tribal consciousness is the reason why many are afraid to speak their truth and be true to themselves

Merely bringing these patterns into conscious awareness and being very compassionate with yourself can bring much relief and healing.

Yes it is true we are all connected on a higher level and we are here to support each other. But we are also here to be our fullest SELVES and fulfil our unique purpose. We are work in progress. We are here to validate and acknowledge the different expressions and differences on an individual level and we are here to live a life which is in integrity with our higher SELF.

If you would like to explore what your empowered and higher version of yourself would say YES or NO to please reach out to me and we can look into it together.

I am a life-purpose coach and holistic counsellor. It’s not a requirement but people usually come to me in transition. My approach is both practical and mystical/spiritual. My mission is to invite you into higher states of being by cultivating inner awareness, empowerment and love.
I have been unconventionally living life on my own terms while serving the most gorgeous clients all around for around the world for around a decade now. My heart is full and the work I do is highly fulfilling and rewarding.

I can deliberately enter an expanded state of consciousness and have mastered the ability to tap into the SOURCE of LOVE, WISDOM, ABUNDANCE and POWER and I am strongly dedicated to further learning and expansion.

The boldness, determination and courage to walk the path less travelled has opened many doors that exceeded my wildest dreams and I am very grateful for the opportunity to pass this knowledge and experience on and to be of service to the greater WHOLE.

What is stored in our causal auric layer determines our day-to-day experiences. Mindset work might be a great start but is often not enough to change deeply ingrained karmic and ancestral patterns. No matter how motivated and determined we are to shift things. There is more than meets the eye and even more than meets the mind.

My superpower lies in shattering outdated paradigms and tuning in to the unique karmic frequency of my clients to activate their higher calling, including the highest confidence, self-love and empowerment vibration so that they can move forward quickly, uplevel their personal and professional life without unnecessary detours, holding back and feeling stuck. My life is a demonstration of the expression “be in this world but not of it”. I implement spirituality into everyday life in a practical way and help my clients to collapse time so that their life can start to blossom and bloom in a way they might not have imagined.

If you would like to receive a complimentary heart-opening meditation you can sign up for my newsletter here.

Love,

Erika

References

(1)  Yogapedia

 

Erika is a fully qualified Holistic Life Coach and Counsellor, Hypnotherapist, Soul Transformation Therapist and Soul Plan Practitioner. She helps conscious, aware and strong women and men to transform all of their relationships and create a life full of creativity, fulfilment and empowerment.  Erika will meet you where you are on your journey and support you to let go and release everything which is preventing you from moving forward and reaching the next level of your infinite potential.

She is grateful and honoured to have worked with many private clients all around the globe. Her approach is heart centred and intuitive and she combines practical and spiritual tools to get to the heart the matter. 

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Bounce back from dissapointment

Everyone even those who don’t believe that they are intuitive can feel vibes. What the feeling of disappointment usually does, is keeping away all the amazing people and opportunities including your soul mates and like-minded people who are already around you. They are knocking on your door, but no one is home. So no matter what they do, they remain invisible because you are unavailable energetically. In, other words, your heart is closed!

If you would like to receive a complimentary heart opening meditation you can sign up for it here.

Self-Disappointment usually occurs when you point your finger at yourself with the underlying belief that you have either done something wrong or that there is something fundamentally wrong with you. These thought patterns often lead to isolation and mistrust which then reinforce the perceived sense of distrust, betrayal and disappointment.

Being harsh and critical of yourself or any form of self-loathing is just another way of giving your power away. It creates a vicious cycle. And if you keep filtering all of your experiences through the lens of “this world is not a safe place”, you will receive the same reflection back. Every experience teaches you something about yourself. Your life is a mirror that reflects your conscious and unconscious beliefs, your internal images, your general attitude, including your emotional state. 

Luckily, there is a different way of making profound changes or extracting learning from everything that you experience on a day to day basis. As you change in consciousness your reality will change. Awareness is the key. That’s why it is important to pay attention and to notice our own destructive thought patterns.

Sometimes life will throw us a curve ball when we least expect it!

There is nothing wrong with making plans, but if we keep in mind that things are always changing, we can learn to flow with life and adjust our plans if this is necessary. In this way, we will reduce the amount of suffering tremendously. If we surrender and trust that things will work out the way they are meant out to, they might even work out better, then we have expected it.

If things turn out in a way, you did not expect them to occur you might learn something valuable or meet people whom you would not have met otherwise for example.

That’s why it is so important to take responsibility for your reaction to any upsetting event. Everything starts within! Any changes that we want to implement in our outer reality must start from within. 

When the going gets tough, the tough get going!

Going through tough times and hardships can help us to change our habitual reactions and integrate a new frequency into your consciousness.

We reap what we sow. The way how we carry ourselves minute by minute and respond to life’s challenges determines our destiny. We shape our destiny moment after moment. Those who experienced tremendous hardships and suffering and have tried everything they could think of sometimes wonder if there is a way out. They look at other people’s lives and find it difficult to understand why some seem to have it much easier.  

It always depends from which point of view you look at the situation or event because the most radiant, compassionate, resilient and loving people I have met so far did for sure not have an easy life and yet they rarely complained about it. They used every opportunity to change their karma and took responsibility for whatever they were going through. 

Imagine you would be a very successful and prosperous businessman or woman and someone would steal from you 3$. Would you get upset about it and waste your precious time for weeks or even months thinking about the person who has taken „your“ money. Of course, not because you have more important things to do. But this is what many people do when they encounter small setbacks in their life or if someone lets them down. There is often a tendency to dwell on the negative situation, to overthink and to spend far too much time with analyzing and trying to understand why things happened as they did.

You might have heard the idiom “There is no use crying over spilt? milk.”

What is actually meant with this saying? It means that developing an attitude of starting again will help us to deal with any losses or frustrating situations we encounter. The spirit of this idiom is resilience, perseverance and a positive attitude.

The best way to deal with failure is to be compassionate with yourself, to acknowledge and feel any arising emotions fully, to cry if this brings relief and then to clean up whatever needs to be cleaned up and move on in the spirit of gratitude for the lessons learned.

In case you are struggling at the moment with sadness, I have recorded a guided meditation which comes with an accompanying booklet to support you on your journey.

Guided meditation is a wonderful way to connect with a higher wisdom and creativity. It is also a wonderful tool for emotional, physical and mental healing and is very empowering because it gives you the opportunity to connect with your own inner wisdom from your higher self. You will always receive the answer which you are ready to receive and understand.

Find out more about it here.

Love, Erika

Hi, I am Erika Brose and I offer a beautiful blend of Holistic Healing, Intuitive Counselling, and Coaching and I help people to cultivate self-love, heal emotional and psychological suffering, develop healthy self-care habits and reach their goals. 

If you are stuck or are currently struggling with your path we can explore the inner dynamics together and clear the blocks which prevent you from moving forward. After clearing the blocks we can also explore your vision for the future and capture specific goals so that your life can then start to flow in a far more creative and joyful way with new meaning and direction.

 

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Release that toxic shame once and for all!

I have recently dived deep into the topic of shame while recording a guided meditation and writing a short e-book on how to release shame. Both the booklet and the pre-recorded healing session are available here.

After several people shared their personal stories with me how they have developed shame resilience or how they healed I became aware that many were not even aware that the emotion of shame was running their lives and limiting their choices in many ways. 

The majority of us has no difficulty at all to admit when we feel guilty. It almost seems to be an honourable thing to do.  But when it comes to shame many become very still and quiet. This is a topic that we rather keep to ourselves because we don’t even want to admit it to ourselves. It can remain in the darkest corner of our subconscious mind, far away from our conscious awareness. It feels just safer this way.  

And in case of that those secrets are exposed and revealed we feel paralyzed, traumatised and are unable to act.

So what is happening exactly? What are we ashamed of?

Well, this varies from person to person and one’s upbringing and cultural beliefs. Even the gender plays a role. But in a nutshell, we can say that those who have experienced severe neglect or abuse during their childhood have usually internalised the emotions of shame to some degree or another including a painful belief that there is something fundamentally wrong with them.

There are two different types of shame. The first one is destructive and the second one is benign and healthy.

Healthy shame can help us to discern which action or behaviour is appropriate in each moment and for the highest good of all concerned and which not. It helps us to live a life which is in alignment with truth and the universal laws. Healthy shame also implies that we do not deny our weaknesses, our insecurities and vulnerabilities and that we allow ourselves to cultivate self-compassion during situations when we feel or encounter shame, failure, embarrassment or disappointment.

Toxic, dangerous, or dysfunctional shame, on the other hand, is highly destructive. It is an attack on the self, and it keeps us, hostage. It often leads to disassociation so that we check out of our body instead of being fully present. When we experience extreme shame we wish to hide from others and ourselves. We wish we could just disappear. Hiding comes always from judgement.
The truth is that we can’t escape from ourselves and we can’t fool anyone either. Everything that we hide, judge or resist is still in our energy field. On a deeper level, we hide because we believe in the illusion of separation. Being transparent with ourselves helps us to be transparent with others.

The problem is that many are not aware that this powerful and often overwhelming feeling of toxic shame is ruling their lives and their choices. It keeps them stuck and it prevents them from taking courageous and soul-inspired action in life, to be open with their feelings, to show their true colours and to ask for what they secretly long for.  By opening up and sharing our true feelings we can learn a completely new way of relating to each other. This is where true intimacy starts and head-games stop. 

Shame is a common barrier to intimacy, and I observed that those who experience much shame are also hiding their innate gifts and talents from the world.

I make in the following booklet several suggestions how to liberate yourself from toxic shame. And I have also included all stories and comments in the e-book which have been shared with me during my research without mentioning any names to protect the privacy of those concerned.

Awareness is the first step and a key to healing.

Take a piece of paper and a pen and answer the following questions.

  • What would I do right now if I would not be ashamed?
  • Who would I call right now if I would not be ashamed?
  • With whom would I go out if I would not be ashamed to ask?
  • Where would I live if I would not be ashamed?
  • Which places would I visit right now if I would not be ashamed to go for what I really want?
  • What would I do for a living if I would not be ashamed to follow my heart’s guidance and take courageous and soul inspired action?
  • What would I say openly or more often to the people who truly matter if I would not be ashamed of my feelings?
  • What would I stop doing completely if I would not be ashamed to speak my mind?
  • What would I say when I feel that my boundaries are violated when I would not be ashamed or afraid?
  • How would my intimate life change if I would not be ashamed of my body?

Soul Archetypes Sub-Personalities Integration

During on-one-one counselling sessions, I often work with subpersonalities and archetypes.

Integrating different sub-personalities can heal our core childhood wounds and trauma and help us to re-establish our connection to our own soul so that we can live our life from a place of integrity, wholeness and truth.

Most sub-personalities are formed early in life to protect or help us cope with being in the world. The sub-personalities are fragments of a whole. They are the parts of us that we use to meet our needs, as well as protect ourselves. We use these sub-personalities to adapt to different situations, to tailor our reactions in order to get the desired response from others.

If we have been criticised for our anger, for example, we might disown this part of us. As a result, we feel ashamed as soon as this emotions arises or ignore and push it down completely. Instead of realising that anger is sometimes a necessary emotion which can help us to identify when we are being mistreated for example we start to feel guilty that this emotion is arising in the first place. In this case, we won’t be able to be assertive in a conflicting situation for example and to speak up if the situation requires it.

The more parts are disowned and rejected the more the individual suffers and it starts to internalize that there is nothing okay with him which leads to a self-destructive behaviour. In this case, even causal everyday situations can trigger the feelings of exposure, anger or fear. This results in tremendous suffering and inner pain. Every encounter and experience is filtered through the lens of shame.
During my counselling work, I noticed that the following three subpersonalities play a significant role in someone’s life who has experienced much shame:

  • The Inner Critic
  • The Judge
  • The Perfectionist

Being unaware of how those sub-personalities are influencing our thoughts and day to day decisions often causes unnecessary turmoil and suffering. By doing the inner work, we can develop a better understanding of our sub-personalities, and use them in benign and constructive ways in our day-to-day lives.

If you would like to look deeper into this topic, please reach out to me, and we can see how I can support you. 

Love, Erika 

Hi, I am Erika Brose and I offer a beautiful blend of Holistic Healing, Intuitive Counselling, and Coaching and I help people to cultivate self-love, heal emotional and psychological suffering, develop healthy self-care habits and reach their goals. 
If you are stuck or are currently struggling with your path we can explore the inner dynamics together and clear the blocks which prevent you from moving forward. After clearing the blocks we can also explore your vision for the future and capture specific goals so that your life can then start to flow in a far more creative and joyful way with new meaning and direction.

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Are you authentically confident?

Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.
-Henry Ford

You would be surprised how many people lack confidence. Just imagine how your life would change if you would believe in yourself and be completely confident in your abilities, talents and gifts. 

Many individuals appear to be confident or successful on the surface. They act confidently and self-assured but if you look underneath you will notice that they are only covering up a profound sense of insecurity or inadequacy.

Recognising genuine confidence

The Latin word for confidence is cōnfīdentia from cōnfīdō,  con- (“with”) + fīdō (“trust”)

In this case, confidence means “WITH TRUST”.  

We always trust or have faith in something. We either picture the best case or the worst case scenario in our mind. 

As the saying goes, “faith can move mountains”. Faith is a mental attitude which does not allow any doubts, worries or insecurity to enter your mind. It has a dynamic, catalytic and transformative power and it is the propelling force in the creative process. 

You can usually feel if someone embodies confidence or not. Those who are genuinely confident have a secure and stable self-belief and an unshakable presence. 

  • They are quietly assertive and are perfectly capable of standing up for themselves. Simultaneously, they are humble and independent of the good opinions of others. 
  • They know their self-worth, but they don’t feel the need to show it off. At the same time, they are not afraid to shine and inspire others.
  • They display an emotional maturity and accept their weaknesses as part of the whole and don’t try to cover them up. 
  • They are aware that presence and personal power are inside and don’t shrink or make themselves small when they have conversations with people whom they perceive to be important.
  • They have the courage to move beyond their comfort zone and are not afraid to confront their deepest fears.
  • They are proactive and do not complain all the time.
  • They forgive themselves and others quickly and move on.
  • They don’t get discouraged by failures or setbacks.
  • They speak with conviction instead of trying to put their message across in a quiet tone as fast as possible.
  • They welcome constructive criticism and have the ability to view at things and situations from multiple perspectives.
  • They understand that finding fault with oneself or disliking oneself is nothing else than placing a burden on one’s life.
  • And most of all they are aware that in order to be happy they have to love themselves unconditionally, enjoy their life and be of service to others.

Feeling secure and confident inside changes one’s body language and tone of voice. The entire energy field expands when a person feels empowered and embodies confidence.

Being authentically confident and believing in yourself does not mean that you will never feel nervous or anxious when you take risks and step out of your comfort zone. 

Real confidence is a deep inner knowing that you will be okay no matter what happens. Remaining calm, balanced and unattached especially in the midst of a difficulty is only possible if someone has developed a high degree of acceptance of all life events. A truly mature, wise and confident individual is ultimately able to surrender, to let go and to accept all events. The goal shouldn’t be to become absolutely fearless but to be able to surrender to a power which is larger than your personality and focus on service to others. You can remain empowered and feel safe when you remain flexible in the midst of a chaotic and adverse situation. And instead of the habitual responses to freeze and become immovable, you can concentrate on remaining fully present and alert while being simultaneously capable to take the most appropriate action. 
Your dignity is only dependent on your own actions and not how someone perceives you or treats you. 

We are both the dark and the light! ☯🌓🕉

Everything is contained within the whole but many struggle to accept the polarities and we could say that it takes an advanced soul to do this.

If we keep practising letting go and acknowledge the perfection in all of creation we can slowly start to accept both ends of the spectrum and recognise that all is part of the whole. ☀

I believe that our shadow rises to the surface so that we can integrate, accept and release it. I have specialised in supporting clients from all over the world to build an i unshakable confidence into their gifts. All of my coaching packages are also combined with  in distant healing to help integrate and accept the parts they have rejected, suppressed, abandoned or denied parts 

By the end of this 3 montsh program:

🌈You will have crystal clear clarity about what you are good at and what your most valuable asset is!

🌈Stop listening to advice that is not working for you and doing things that work against you!

🌈Own your worldly and spiritual gifts and talents boldly and feel comfortable to start sharing them with those who can benefit greatly from your superpowers!

🌈Be much more focused and determined to make things happen and not to allow others to determine who you are!

🌈Feel comfortable and stable within your yourself and radiate confidence and certainty

🌈Stand your ground at times when you are triggered and not back down when you are challenged

🌈Not allow any soul and spiritless opinions or perceptions to influence how you should feel inside.

🌈No one else except your higher SELF / Soul / Spirit / Source itself will make decisions for you because you will be tuned in and tapped in into your intuition and higher guidance.

🌈Embrace your God-given power and feel comfortable to ask for a fair energy exchange for your gifts, talents, products or services.

🌈Decide boldly who you are and be independent of the good opinions of others.

🌈Break conventional rules which determine how things are supposed to work and tap into your magical and creative inner being.

🥂🥂🥂 Whatever your biggest dreams and visions are in my world you have already won this game. I celebrate and applaud you for saying YES to yourself! Yes to Healing and returning to wholeness! Yes to the courage to go through the fire of transformation. Yes to facing your fears!

Yes to miracles! Yes to synchronisity and serendipity! 🥂🥂🥂

Irresistible confidence your innate gifts!

Letting go of control and surrendering

Humility and confidence go hand and in hand. Having confidence in your gifts, talents and abilities does not mean that you know it all or that you have all the answers. 

There comes a point in the creative process and in any project or undertaking which you have started when you must let go and surrender. After you have done all the necessary actions steps it is important not to try to control the germination process, but to give up control and to allow things to unfold in the way they are meant to unfold rather than trying to make them happen.

Control is rooted in fear and lack of trust and will very likely attract unfavourable circumstances. Instead of trying to micromanage every detail it is much more helpful to develop trust that you will be okay no matter the circumstances and that you will be able to handle everything that comes your way.

We will always face various challenges in life. The world we live in is a world of duality and polarity and we must learn to accept both ends of the spectrum and recognise that all is part of the whole. Embracing life’s challenges and finding creative solutions to any arising obstacles can be very empowering. Developing an inner authority and becoming independent of the good opinion of other people will help you to move through any turbulent times. 
If you take little steps towards your goal and face your fears on a regular basis, you will develop with time an inner resilience and learn how to remain stable and grounded like an oak tree no matter if you experience success or failure or if the outside world approves of your actions or not.

Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.― Lao Tzu

Every time you experience an internal discontent as a result of what someone else has said or done is a sign that you have given your power away.

People will always add some meaning or interpretations to your behaviour or actions, but ultimately none of this is who you truly are. What is right and what is wrong varies with habit and custom, and therefore there is no need to pay too much attention to other people’s opinions.

The less you depend on any external approval or validation, the happier you will be. When you let go of the need to prove anything to anyone and instead live open-heartedly in the moment, you will be in tune with all of the creation, and things start to flow more effortlessly.

Being a confident individual includes the ability to say NO to certain things or people and not to say YES out of politeness and the tendency to please others. It means also having the ability to discern if someone acts from a place of integrity or not and to distance yourself from those who don’t have the best intentions in mind. 

You will become naturally confident when you act from a place of integrity. This does not mean that you will obey all rules or conform blindly to authorities. It does only mean that you will be aware of the bigger picture and the universal law of cause and effect and that you might need to balance out the energy again if you perform actions consciously or unconsciously which are destructive or hurt others. Following rules, teachings or dogmas blindly is a way of giving your power away.

The second you feel manipulated, controlled, heavily restricted in the way how you express yourself or any tactics are used to convince you to do something that you don’t want distance yourself as fast as possible from this organisation or group of people. Your intuition and your heart are your most reliable guide. Intuition is simply asking a very clear and precise question and allowing then the answer to come to you. It might come immediately or within a few hours or days. The more you practice to listen to it there more you will be able to trust it. 

With time you will develop an intuitive sense what is appropriate or not and you will be able to discern truth from untruth, or when your ego and scarcity consciousness kicks in or when you remain heart-centred and operate on a higher level of consciousness. 

Unconditional Self-Acceptance

Paradoxically confidence is closely interlinked with gentleness, compassion and staying present and open with whatever arises. It is important to keep in mind that it takes time, dedication, consistency and discipline to change your habits, especially if you have been practising the habit of being insecure, doubtful or anxious for a long time. However, it is equally important to pay attention to the inner harsh critical voice and change it into a kind one.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Budda

Develop such an unconditional friendliness and compassion towards yourself that no matter what kind of thoughts or emotions arise, you do not fear or judge them anymore.

Understanding emotions and energy dynamics

Instead of labelling insecurity or a feeling of inadequacy as good or bad acknowledge that a feeling or emotion is nothing more than an arising, creative energy which will dissolve by itself if you allow it to flow freely and don’t resist it. Everything is impermanent and therefore even the most uncomfortable feeling or emotions will fade away.

The energy of irritability, frustration, impatience, insecurity, anxiety arises, and it passes away. What keeps the energy alive is the story, judgement and labels which we put on the top of the energy. When we feed any arising energy with our stories, the unpleasant feeling will remain in our energy field and arise again and again until we are ready to release the energy by telling a different story.

Tips To Increase Your Confidence and strengthen your Faith

  • Write down 50 things that you can appreciate about yourself
  • Be aware of your posture (studies have  found out that sitting up straight boosts self-confidence and reinforces positive thoughts)
  • Do not dwell on mistakes
  • Face every challenge with courage and the conviction that it is already solved
  • Know that you have the power to correct, resolve or overcome anything
  • Be your own best friend and do not belittle or criticise yourself
  • See yourself as someone who is on a journey and is always learning, expanding and becoming more resourceful and efficient during this process
  • Keep in mind that most successful entrepreneurs or artists have emerged from humble beginnings
  • Start where you are right now and grow as you go
  • Have fun and do not take yourself too seriously

Hypnosis for Confidence – Clearing Subconscious Blocks

Of course, each person is unique, but oftentimes low self-esteem or a lack of confidence has been developed early in life. Sometimes it can be helpful to explore the background and the events which have led to particular dynamics, but in the end, the main focus should be to develop a new and healthier set of perspectives. The following self-hypnosis session contains a gentle hypnotic induction, positive suggestions and empowering beliefs which will help you to create a shift in your subconscious mind.

Bring Out Your Inner Confidence Hypnosis can have a powerful effect on your emotional and mental wellbeing. With the aid of this hypnosis session, you can address any thoughts that may have weakened your confidence and replace more with more helpful thought patterns and behaviours.

This recording will create new neural pathways in the brain which will allow you to feel that a positive shift has already happened and it will make it much easier to experience this feeling in your everyday life.

It will help you to: 

  • To center and ground yourself
  • Achieve a state of calmness and relaxation
  • Let go of everything that no longer serves you
  • Step outside of your comfort zone
  • Develop a better, healthier self-image
  • Feel comfortable in situations which have caused previously distress
  • Keep an unwavering faith and move boldly towards your goals

In addition to listening to this hypnosis session, I encourage you to work with images on a daily basis for a period of 3 to 4 weeks. Think of someone who has the qualities you would like to adapt, (this is known as modelling) and then step into that person in your mind’s eye and feel how it feels like to act and behave like this person.

Here are also some suggestions of uplifting essential oils & blends to boost confidence!

✨Wild Orange
✨Bergamot

✨Rosemary
✨DoTerra Cheer Blend 
✨DoTerra Elevation Blend
✨DoTerra Motivate Blend

✨DoTerra Elevation blend
✨Peppermint 
✨Grapefruit
✨Cassia

Essential Oils for Encouragement
✨Bergamot
✨Grapefruit
✨Lemon
✨Lime
✨Wild Orange
✨Petitgrain
✨Citrus Bliss

Essential Oils for Self-Assurance
✨Frankincense
✨Fennel
✨Jasmine
✨Rose
✨Ylang Ylang
✨Cedarwood

Essential Oils for Grounding and Stability
✨Cedarwood
✨Vetiver
✨Myrrh
✨Sandalwood
✨Balance blend

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If you have ever inhaled the fragrance of your favourite FLOWER and remember the sweetness of getting in touch with the essence of a plant then you will love and benefit greatly from essential oils.

There are hundreds of ways how you can use high- quality essential oils including relaxation, emotional and energetic healing, meditation, spiritual practice, personal hygiene, household cleaning, cooking and more.

Some of the oils will shower you with the elixir of self-love and self-appreciation, some will help you to clear long-standing emotional and energetic attachments, and others will transform you in a way you could not have imagined. The more you open up to the energy and benefits of very pure high-quality essential oils and let go of resistance the more you will benefit from them.

The essential oils work on many different levels: Physical, Emotional, Mental and Spiritual/Energetic. The measured frequencies of essential oils have been shown to go as high as 320 MHz as seen with Rose oil! Lavender has a frequency of 118 MHz and Sandalwood has a frequency of 96 MHz.  I have recorded several videos where I introduce the benefits and the uses of essential oils. You can access the complete playlist on Youtube here:

Essential oils Inspiration and Education with Erika

 

https://youtu.be/68fXK4lXZNE https://youtu.be/8YrylnMvAms

When purchasing essential oils, it is important to find oils that are pure. The purity of an essential oil determines how effective an essential oil can be. The less pure an essential oil is, the less effective it will be. Too often, essential oils that are on the market are not pure and contain contaminants and filler substances.

doTERRA oils are different than any other oils. You will get oils which are distilled at the peak potency to ensure the highest effectiveness and quality and they are not treated with pesticides. So it is a massive difference to the oils which you would buy at a grocery store for example. Those who have long-term experience with essential oils will immediately notice the difference.

In addition to supplying the highest quality, essential oils doTERRA is committed to making a positive difference in the lives of farmers, harvesters, and distillers who contribute to doTERRA’s oil production. doTERRA is family-focused and pro-women. Mamas, children and families are welcomed, appreciated, encouraged and supported through doTERRA.

To learn about the quality and sourcing, Source to You helps you to learn how doTERRA works with smallholder farmers worldwide to optimize their work and grow the precious plants that grant us and our families this crucial connection to Mother Nature. And here is an incredible resource to see exactly where your oils have come from. It also shows a Gas Chromatography graph that breaks down all the natural chemical compounds that are in each bottle of doTERRA Essential Oils.

At the base of your bottle of Single Oils, you will see a number. If you enter this into the system all the relevant information for that particular Essential Oils will come up. dōTERRA is completely transparent about all components of their Oils and that’s why it is safe to trust that you are working with the purest oils available.

Most essential oils are made from fresh leaves, flowers, roots, or twigs, but there are a few special essential oils that are made from the resin of plants such as Frankincense. The oils capture the plant’s scent and flavour also called its “essence.” And they are obtained through distillation or cold-press extraction. 100% pure, natural, high-quality essential oils can help us to tune into higher frequencies, clear negative emotions on a cellular level but also release blockages which prevent us to align with the abundance of the universe. Essential oils have been used for spiritual ceremonies, rituals, balancing emotions and for healing the mind, body and spirit for over thousands of years. I do often feel a pulsating stream of healing energy owing through my body while I am getting ready for the distant healing sessions and I use various essential oils during any healing, coaching or counselling work.

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Articles in English English & German Relationships Self esteem, Self worth & Confidence Self-healing, Trauma Healing & Self-help June 8, 2017

Be well and eliminate the root cause of emotional and physical pain!

 

I have a vivid memory of being often sick as a child, and therefore I have developed an interest in Holistic Healing from a very early age. There was no need to explain to me how an abstract system such as acupuncture or aromatherapy works. I simply knew intuitively that it works if the mind does not interfere.

The only real way to heal any emotional and physical pain is to eliminate the underlying emotional and energetic causes. In fact, emotional and spiritual health is often a crucial factor in the healing process.

The majority operates from a place of victim consciousness. Not being aware of their true Self they defend the identity they have constructed at all costs. However, we have reached a point in our evolution as a collective where we desperately need to evolve beyond the victim consciousness. To see if you are plugged in into any victim thought forms you have to be first of all brutally honest with yourself.
Those who feel disempowered are usually more susceptible to illness and diseases.

Our bodies are brilliant and miraculous, but the fact is, that we are more than just our physical bodies. We are more than merely the flesh and bones. To be precise, the body is far away from all of who we are. We are even more than our thoughts and emotions.

It is the ego that believes that it is limited to this physical body and is highly vulnerable. The lower self defines, therefore, an illness or a feeling of being unwell as a failure or weakness. In its limited view, it is unable to see the bigger picture and it is only concerned about safety and survival. From the fearful perspective of the ego, it is indeed quite difficult to understand that physical pain or even a life-threatening illness can contain a hidden blessing. 

Sending healing to everyone who would like to receive it! 

It is our higher Self that chooses the illness because the higher Self has a much broader overview of all life events and our Soul’s journey.  An Illness is often a way to get in touch with any hidden unconscious beliefs or unintegrated aspects of self and it will sometimes redirect us into a new direction or a new way of approaching life’s ups and downs. 

This realisation helps us to live from a different place of awareness and not to identify ourselves with the pain or illness. The reason that we feel tension and pain in the first place is because we have bought in into the illusion that we are a body. When we release these thought patterns and stop listening to the excuses of our mind, we will realise that we are infinite bliss and love. From this moment of realisation, true healing can occur on all levels. The pain or discomfort might be still there but the suffering will cease. 

The most important step to balance ourselves implies an understanding of the energy centres, also known as chakras which make up the mind, body, and spirit complex.

Chakra is a Sanskrit word that translates into a turning wheel or disc. These energy centres are connected to main organs, endocrine glands, physiological functions, emotions and spiritual energy and they hold the keys to physical and emotional health. The openness and flow of energy through our chakras determines our state of health and balance.

An unbalanced or blocked chakra can lead to physical, emotional or mental symptoms.
There are seven main energy centres positioned throughout our body, from the base of your spine to the crown of our head. Each chakra has its own vibrational frequency, that is represented through a particular chakra colour.

I have recorded a guided meditation which will help you to balance the seven main energy centres.

Understanding pain and dealing with pain

Pain multiplied by resistance and strong identification is causing more suffering. If we reduce the resistance, we reduce the suffering. Pain multiplied by acceptance equals freedom. In other words, acceptance leads to healing.

We should not forget that pain can also be an excellent teacher.

Every sickness or physical pain reveals aspects to us that we otherwise wouldn’t be aware of. It is a signal that we can use to come into greater alignment with our True Self. As soon as we discover why a particular symptom shows up, our higher Self won’t have the need to communicate to us through physical pain. The more energised, vibrant and empowered we are, the more in alignment we are with our true Self’s fundamental wavelength.

The core frequency of creation is unconditional love, bliss, joy and abundance. In a sense, a sickness or pain indicates that we have created a gap between ourselves and the core frequency of creation.

If the symptoms show up very strongly, it can be extremely challenging to focus on higher vibrations such as love, joy and bliss. What worked for me in the past was to cultivate gratitude and to thank my higher Self for the catalyst and its infinite wisdom and intelligence. I have learned that when the body gets sick, it means it is time to rest. 

An illness or sickness gives us the opportunity to slow down, to retreat, to contemplate, to set our priorities straight and to re-focus. It offers us also the chance to investigate our beliefs or it is forcing us to develop new strengths and resources or reach out for help and support. Our bodies respond to our state of being, attempting to signal to us that we have a deeper need that demands our attention. Some people say that our body is a reflection of our unconscious mind. If we’re willing to pay attention we can recognise our imbalances and make appropriate changes. 

Most of the physical conditions are the result of misaligned thoughts and beliefs (conscious and unconscious) which cause energy blockages. With misaligned, negative thinking, I mean that the way how we see life is out of alignment with our Spirit’s point of view. After a while, this misalignment transfers into the physical body.
When we have constant negative thoughts, and when we use our past traumatic and painful experiences as an excuse to behave in a dysfunctional way or to feel victimised, we are more likely to get sick or feel unwell. 

There are some exceptions for sickness or physical disabilities, and sometimes we choose to experience certain mental or physical conditions because it serves us as a catalyst to move into a direction which is in alignment with our life’s theme and higher purpose. Without this catalyst, we would not have the incentive to move into a particular direction. 

We might even accept to experience various physical limitations or mental health conditions to be of service to others.

There can be spiritual reasons for illnesses and diseases, and they might not be related to negative or destructive thought patterns. In this case, the disease comes as a spiritual challenge which helps to move to the next level of ascension and empowerment. From the spiritual perspective, illness is a step toward wholeness.

It is not unusual that those who embark on the spiritual path or undertake a pilgrimage, for example, become very sick. There are usually higher reasons for this and we are not always privileged to know, why a particular illness shows up. The reasons might be revealed to us a long time after its occurrence. The more we surrender and give up all resistance during this time instead of asking “why”, the less we will suffer. 

“Rest assured that whatever station of life we are placed,
princely or lowly, it contains the lessons and experiences
necessary at the moment for our evolution,
and gives us the best advantage for the development of ourselves.”
– Edward Bach

The fastest way to heal is to drop all identifications with the illness and to see it as temporary, transitory experience. This condition might bring many suppressed, unconscious fears to the surface.  Allow those feelings and fears to flow through your vessel and at the same time release old beliefs which you are ready to let go of. Accept that this is an experience your higher Self would like you to have at this moment and from a higher perspective, everything happens for your best interest. Your task is to allow the very best lessons and outcomes to flow through your vessel and be detached from the outcome. 

To heal means to align with your higher Self, your spirit and to reconnect with the energy of love. Holistic Healing or Energy Healing is about remembering who you truly are.

* It is about reconnecting with your Soul, your Higher Self, and Source. 
* It is about letting go of conditioning and giving yourself full permission to be WHO YOU TRULY are, instead of being who you think you should be.
* It is about stepping into your power and finding maximum joy and fulfilment in the here and now. 
* It is about living from a place of truth rather than buying in into the pain and pleasure concept. 
* It is about the recognition of wholeness and perfection in the midst of challenging circumstances.
* It is about changing of a perspective. If you change your perspective you will see that your suffering stems from a misaligned point of view.

People often wonder how all the hardships, health challenges and suffering they have been through are supposed to serve them?

Many have the concept in their mind that things should be comfortable and cosy and those who have material wealth and success are often admired. The common belief is that having a family, a nice car, a house and a career are the highest things to aspire for in life.

Of course, all of those things are beautiful and can be enjoyed and appreciated, but we should not forget that the main reason for being here is to evolve spiritually. Enjoy the beauty of life, yet remain simultaneously aware of your true nature.

I have seen again and again that those who went through tremendous pain, severe suffering and hardships have been the most spiritually evolved, compassionate, loving, humble, generous and mature people.

Something has emerged from within that transcended all the pain. If they would not have had these intense experiences, they might have been stuck in the superficial material world and would have missed the opportunity to discover the divinity within. They have moved from darkness into light! This is something many beings throughout history have been longing for whether they are consciously aware of it or not.

Grace happens in many miraculous ways, and those who are awake are able to see it in situations and events where those who are asleep perceive only injustice and cruelty. 

Physical pain is often an attempt from our body to communicate to us that something is out of balance. If we want to eliminate the pain or discomfort we have to find the cause instead of looking at the symptoms. To determine the root cause it is helpful to become quiet for a moment and to enquire humble. Begin the investigation by asking, “what is it really”?

The following questions could help to discover the root cause:

What secret benefit could this sickness, discomfort or pain have?

What is your soul longing to learn or to experience?

Does the illness help you to set healthy boundaries?

Does the sickness serve as a protection not to be close or intimate with another person so that you can reduce the risk of being hurt?

If you have pain in your shoulders, are you carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders or do you feel that life is a burden?

If you have heart problems or pain around your chest, do you hold grudges or are you “heartbroken” (forgiveness is the major alchemy in healing)?

If you have back pain, do you feel supported in life and do you allow others to support you?

Is the discomfort there when you wake up or when you go to sleep? Or maybe it is only there in certain circumstances, such as when you are around certain individuals or shortly before an important meeting?

When does it go away? Does the phenomenon fade away when you relax into it, or breathe into it? 

Disengaging from the pain and taking on the observer attitude is another interesting form of enquiry. An attitude of curiosity and a sense of wonder will allow you to step outside and look at the occurring phenomenon from a different perspective. This disidentification helps to have a less personal relationship with the discomfort or pain. If you do this you will notice that the discomfort is simply appearing and disappearing. It is a passing, transitory experience. Consciousness is creating this experience in order to learn from it and ultimately to transcend it. And we need duality in order to be able to learn. How would we know how inner peace feels like if we would not have experienced pain and inner turmoil first?

This recognition helps to be more objective, less personally involved and it is more likely that the discomfort will eventually fade away. 

It is important to understand that disengaging from the pain has nothing to do with denial or spacing out. Any arising uncomfortable phenomena are merely appearances within consciousness, expressed through you, but they are not who you truly are. By taking on the observer view it is more likely that you will have a broader and wider perspective, which may reveal the underlying cause of the discomfort. 

Many people are familiar with Louise Hay’s  book, You Can Heal Your Life, which lists physical symptoms and their corresponding emotional dynamics. While I agree that there is often a direct mind-body connection between an illness and the symptom, it is important to bear in mind that there might be also profound spiritual reasons for an illness or a disease. Symptoms and their signals are not always easy to understand and they may vary from individual to individual. A dis-ease or any kind of discomfort usually speaks to us on many different levels at simultaneously.

The cause of an illness can be chemical, mental, emotional, environmental or spiritual.

On a mental level, ongoing negative thought patterns and dysfunctional beliefs would eventually lead to pain or sickness. So any therapy or technique which deals with negative beliefs e.g. cognitive behavioural therapy could bring relief. Some forms of meditation and mindfulness techniques do address the mind, too.

The cause on a spiritual level could be not following our purpose or being while extremely dissatisfying working environment for example. And at the same time being afraid to undertake the necessary changes to make a shift in the right direction.
Without the physical discomfort, we would not have the incentive or courage to make any necessary modifications, reach out for support, or leave a comfort zone behind for example.

Environmental CAUSEs

The problem here is toxicity. The same sort of toxicity that kills fish in rivers, and pollutes the environment contaminates the blood and tissues of the body. Many diseases, such as Diabetes and Cirrhosis of the liver, are caused by long term accumulation of toxins and acid wastes in the body.
A healthy body will naturally detoxify itself by eliminating its self-produced toxic wastes as soon as they are produced.

On a chemical level, the food we eat can be the cause of significant imbalances.

Food sensitivities can cause chronic inflammation in the gut and body.
Toxins can build up in the body and cause pain. Nutrient deficiencies like B Vitamins; Magnesium can affect the nervous system and lead to physical pain.

In his book “Secrets Behind Chronic and Mystery Illness and How to Finally Heal” it, Anthony William points out that heavy metals such as mercury, aluminium, lead, and copper can settle into the brain and other organs, such as liver, and affect their ability to function properly. Potential consequences include anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), and attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Another possible result is migraines. The Author also describes in detail how you can free your brain and body of toxins.

He also covers in the book the following illnesses:

— Chronic Fatigue
— Autoimmune Disorders
— Migraines
— PMS & Menopause
— Depression
— ADHD & Autism
— Lyme Disease
— Candida
— Posttraumatic Stress Disorder
— Rheumatoid Arthritis

He describes the true root cause of these conditions – many of which the medical community has not yet discovered.

Personally, I use a high dosage of MSM and Vitamin C to detox my body.
MSM (methyl-sulfonyl-methane), also known as dimethyl sulfone, is a naturally occurring sulphur compound, found in human diets and those of virtually all other vertebrates. In its purified form, it is an odourless, slightly bitter tasting, water soluble, white, crystalline powder containing 34% elemental sulphur.

MSM is important in detoxification because it makes the cell walls more elastic, allowing easier exchange through the cell wall. MSM occurs naturally in the human body as a result of the food we eat.

It is recommended to drink very high amounts of water while consuming Vitamin C and MSN. Some natural sources of Vitamin C are Camu-Camu, Acerola, Barley Grass, Indian gooseberries, also known as Alma.

Please do your own research on this topic and follow your resonance as I am not a medical doctor.

On the emotional level, past trauma, or suppressed emotions and memories can manifest as pain.

No one has taught us how to release emotions. If we experience emotions like anger, hate, sadness, shame or fear, we have the tendency to contract our body. As a result, precious life-force energy (Prana to the Hindu, Qi to the Chinese) can’t flow freely. With time the effects of these blockages will either cause more tension in the body, lead to various physical symptoms or attract unfavourable circumstances, especially if we insist that our anger or resentment is justified and refuse to let it go. If we hold on to the negative emotions we harm ourselves the most. Therefore the wisest thing to do is to release the emotions when they arise. As soon as an unpleasant emotion or feeling arises, give up any resistance, accept it, don’t be afraid to feel it for a short moment. Simply breathe through it instead of labelling the arising emotion as something negative. After experiencing an unpleasant emotion fully, shift your focus to something else. 

The following meditation will help you to manage and understand your emotions.

If you are stuck or are currently struggling with your path we can explore the inner dynamics during one-on-one Skype sessions together and clear the blocks which prevent you from moving forward. After clearing the blocks we can also explore your vision for the future and capture specific goals so that your life can then start to flow in a far more creative and joyful way with new meaning and direction.

 

Hi, I am Erika Brose and I offer a beautiful blend of Holistic Healing, Intuitive Counselling, and Coaching and I help people to cultivate self-love, heal emotional and psychological suffering, develop healthy self-care habits and reach their goals.
The types of issues I work with can vary from clearing emotional pain, clearing creative blocks, integrating conflicting sub-selves, archetype work, breaking unwanted patterns, clearing oversensitivity issues, clearing limiting beliefs, spiritual and emotional healing and most of all helping people find their soul’s purpose and clearing any blocks that prevent them from connecting fully with their soul purpose.

It is my intention to inspire, empower you and help you to find more clarity in life and reconnect with your true self. I help people to become more aware of their gifts and also their beliefs and values they are operating under. As you start to remember who you truly are, you naturally start to re-align with your true self and your life purpose. 

Through the unique combination of Holistic Healing, professional Holistic Counselling skills, and intuitive gifts, I provide compassionate and deeply accepting space to support you on your journey.

Together, we generate insight and transformation. My work is a co-creative, collaborative partnership with you to create the deepest insight, empowerment, clarity, wellbeing, healing and possibility, and enable you to share this with others. 

I have trained in a number of different healing techniques including energy psychology, relationship healing and a diverse array of therapeutic interventions but I don’t follow any particular tradition or concept as I work intuitively from the heart.

What is a spiritual counsellor/holistic healing practitioner? A spiritual counsellor or holistic healing practitioner has trained in a number of healing techniques. Their training has included, counselling, energy psychology, relationship healing, hypnotherapy, spiritual life coaching, soul plan and a diverse array of therapeutic interventions. A spiritual counsellor or holistic healing practitioner has recognised the importance of offering more than energetic healing or conventional counselling. The client also receives unconditional listening, sound advice, new resources, empowering beliefs and options for leading a more fulfilling and real quality life. These integrated sessions address the client on all levels: physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Energetic healing creates the space while a practical approach grounds the benefits in the here and now.

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